Hello! This is ArtGainz.
The other day an advertisement appeared at the top of my YouTube feed that looked like this:
“When girls get an education, they are more likely to have financial independence.”
My reaction to this advertisement, or at least the title (I did not actually click on it), was probably quite a bit different from how I think most people would react to it. Most people would think “Oh, look at that, a perfectly harmless advertisement for some charity.” I, however, found this advertisement absolutely repulsive. Basically, what it’s doing is telling women that they don’t need men. It’s encouraging women to value independence. And it occurred to me that this advertisement was the moral equivalent of an ad for a pornographic website with the title:
“When boys can look at pictures of naked girls on the internet, they are less likely to need a real woman in their life.”
There are two things in the modern western world that are preventing men and women from throwing themselves madly into each others’ arms. For men, it’s pornography addiction, and for women, it’s female empowerment. There are other factors, of course, but after thinking about it, I’m pretty sure they’re all outgrowths of these two things.
In this video, I’m going to break down exactly how pornography affects the male brain, and how female empowerment affects the female brain in precisely the same way.
But first of all, why is this important? Why is this something worth talking about? Well, it’s like this… If it’s a man’s responsibility to lead his family, to lead his wife and children away from sin, if that’s his God-given role, then he should have at least some grasp of the sort of sins, the sort of temptations that women face, the sort of sins that women tend to fall into. Most men, I think, have a pretty good grasp of the worst sort of vices that they themselves are tempted by, including pornography which a lot of men struggle with, but they have no idea if women have any sort of equivalent vice or temptation. This is an enormous problem. When you know that something’s wrong and you want to fix things, the first step is to correctly identify the problem. Once you’ve identified the problem, you can try different solutions. Men, for the most part, I think, have identified that pornography is one of their biggest problems, and consequently they at least have the hope of solving it. Women, though, for the most part, have not correctly identified their problem, whatever it is, and until they do, they have absolutely no hope of solving it. Husbands and fathers have to step up to the plate, help their wives and daughters identify their problem, and then help them solve it.
I have heard other people talk about this issue, but I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone talk about it in quite the same way I’m about to. Usually when people talk about this, they shoot themself in the foot by either being incredibly crass about it, or by pussyfooting around it so much that their listeners just end up hearing whatever they want to hear in the morass of words. I’m going to try to avoid both those extremes. My natural inclination would be to soften what I’m about to say, but softening what I have to say would obscure the truth. The first principles I’ll be using here are derived partly from Scripture, partly from Western philosophical tradition, and partly from a few reasonable presumptions that I think can be extracted from evolutionary psychology.
The first thing we have to wrap our minds around is that men and women are attracted by different things. There’s different ways of saying this, some of which are more earthy than others, but essentially, men are attracted to beauty—they’re attracted to curves, smoothness, symmetry, that sort of thing—-while women are attracted to strength—the ability to protect, provide, and lead.
Normally, men and women would obtain these desires through marriage. The husband gets to be with a beautiful woman, and the wife gets to be with a strong man. Statistically, it is very, very, very unlikely that the average man or woman will not have these most basic primal urges fulfilled in marriage—due to the simple fact that the average man will rate the average woman as attractive, and women are physically weaker than men, so of course the man’s going to be “strong” from her perspective. Under normal circumstances, the odds are that both the man and the woman are going to get what they want in marriage (at least when it comes to their most basic primal urges).
These two complimentary desires, the desire for strength and the desire for beauty, are practically speaking the most powerful biological urges that men and women experience. As long as you’ve got food and shelter, as long as you’re not suffocating to death, they are the most powerful motivating factors that dictate our behaviour. What you can usually expect is that these urges will override every other thought, consideration, and feeling. These urges, the desire for strength and the desire for beauty, are practically uncontrollable—and they have to be because they are what drives men and women into each other’s arms, which is necessary for propagation and the survival of the nation.
Now we have to look at how these desires, these perfectly natural urges, can become perverted. For men, this is very straightforward. The desire for beauty becomes twisted into pornography addiction. Pornography provides men with the illusion that they are experiencing beauty, that they are with a beautiful woman. The man who uses pornography does not have to go through the effort of proving to a woman she should show her beauty to him, he doesn’t have to go through the effort of proving that he’s worthy of her devotion and submission. Just to clarify, the reason that men instinctively find submission and humility beautiful, the reason it inflames the passions of a man so much, is because submission and humility flow out of dependence. And, you know, why wouldn’t you be submissive and humble toward the person who literally provides you with everything you need to survive and live comfortably. The submissive and humble wife is demonstrating her gratitude. Through submission and humility, the woman is acknowledging that she needs the man, that she’s dependent on him, and for men, having someone that depends on him means that he is fulfilling his purpose in life. It’s his reason for living. Of course he’s going to find it beautiful when his wife acknowledges her dependence on him and demonstrates her gratitude.
Anyway, when a man’s brain gets short-circuited by pornography, he may understand on a cerebral level that being with a real woman would be better, but he is hindered from pursuing that goal by the most powerful biological urge that exists for a man. Why would he go through the strenuous effort of proving himself to a woman when he can get the end result for free?
All that’s pretty straightforward, but now, what is it that short-circuits a woman’s brain? And whatever it, why is it not commonly recognized? You’d think that something that must be so basic, so primal, would be commonly understood, but it’s not. How is that possible?! Well, the reason is because in our society, women are encouraged, even by people who should know better, to react to their most basic primal urges in an unnatural way. This is what is happening when parents encourage their daughters to get an education or start a career.
As I explained before, women desire strength—and normally a woman would find that strength in her husband. The thing that short-circuits a woman’s brain, then, is female empowerment—when women look for strength in themselves, through education, pursuing a career, and generally by attempting to be self-sufficient. Basically, it’s like this: Why would she go through the strenuous effort of finding a strong man who will take care of her, when she’s strong enough to take care of herself?
The delusion here is that wome n can actually take care of themselves. That’s not reality. There is no world where women actually are self-sufficient. A woman may end up being supported by someone other than her husband, such as the government, but when she has children, when she’s raising children, someone is going to be supporting her. Someone is going to be subsidizing her existence.
Women quite simply do not have the sort of strength required for true self-sufficiency. At certain points, raising children can be debilitating and require the entirety of a woman’s attention. At those points, a woman needs someone to take care of her. And the ideal solution to that problem, of course, is that her husband take care of her. No one else is better suited for this or more inclined to cater to her particular needs and comfort.
For a woman, self-sufficiency is just as useless, just as much of a lie and an illusion, as pornography is for a man.
If my logic is correct, and if the analogies I have made here are appropriate, what this means is that for a young woman, the moral equivalent of pornography addiction is quite literally doing anything that does not prepare her to be a good wife and mother. Any superfluous education or skills she acquires that will not help her as a wife and mother, or that she won’t be able to use to support her husband, are soul-destructive vices.
To put it as bluntly as possible—and I hope I’m not being too vulgar when I say this—generally speaking, when you see a young woman sitting in a university classroom, or starting a career in almost anything, what you are actually looking at is the moral equivalent of man sitting at home masturbating. Neither brings joy or fulfillment. Neither helps propagate your tribe or brings honour to the people who sacrificed so much and worked so hard to bring you into the world.
That’s the main gist of what I wanted to say in this video. At this point I’m going to bring up a number of related ideas which I think are relevant.
Starting with… What’s the cure for pornography addiction, anyway? This is something I find extremely annoying because the answer is so obvious but I don’t think anyone ever told me this. The cure for pornography addiction is getting married to a submissive woman who enjoys getting frisky. It’s that simple. It’s not like women are these angelic, sinless creatures that you might besmirch just by looking at them. Women are sinful creatures too, and a lot of the time they need a man to lead them away from sin.
(Actually, men and women need each other in order to escape sin.)
On a related note, any church that tells young men to repent of pornography addictions but at the same time does not tell young women that they need to repent of their delusions about empowerment, is fighting a losing battle. Men are never going to win the war against pornography if women are not also engaged in the war against empowerment. With the lop-sided approach that practically all Western churches take, all they’re really doing is setting young men up for failure, and allowing young women to play an active role in the destruction of civilization.
One final issue… A question that arises out of all of this, I think, is that if it’s better or more natural for women to find their strength in men, if it’s better for women to be dependent on men, if men work harder the more responsibilities you place on them…if that’s the way things used to be, then why has our society changed? Why do women now search for strength in themselves? Why do they value financial independence? Why do they think female empowerment is a good thing? Was it a natural evolutionary process that led us to where we are today? No. The state of our society today is the result of deliberate social engineering. What this means is that things are never going to get better until the sort of people who have engaged in this deliberate social engineering are physically removed. And even that won’t actually be enough. What will have to happen is that the people who make up our governments, our institutions, and our media will have to be replaced by godly, red-blooded men, visionaries, who will have to engage in a bit of their own social engineering, just in the opposite direction. They’ll have to make it socially unacceptable for women to compete with men for the same sort of jobs, or go to the same sort of universities that men go to. They’ll have to provide financial incentives that will encourage women (and men) to marry young and have as many children as possible. They’ll also have to do things like make pornography illegal. They may even make it illegal for women to have their own private bank accounts. Of course, a lot of people would call this unfair, but at the end of the day, it’s not a moral issue. It’s entirely a social issue—whatever people think is best for society. And there might be a good argument that Western societies function much better the more that women are dependent on men. You’ll certainly end up with a higher quality of women, and a higher quality of men.
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And yet… my great aunt was widowed in her 20s (husband died at 29 after an illness) and she was left with two small children. Had to work in the shoe factory. Her sister took in her kids during the day, for free, but they could not support her whole family. Eventually she re-married but not for some years. There must be a way for women like her to support their children.